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Opposites do attract

November 16, 2011
ANDREW POTTER , Times-Republican

The more I learn about relationships the more I think opposites do attract.

I've witnessed several couples where one is the more chatty one and one more subdued. In fact, I don't know of any of my friends who are couples who are both over-the-top outgoing.

Could you imagine if two people in a couple were both overly-talky? Nobody would want to get near them.

How boring would life be if you were matched with someone exactly the same as you? There would be nothing to make fun of each other for, which we all know is the basis of any relationship.

It's not only personalities that seem to be different, it also can be the "likes" of a person.

I have realized my wife likes the total opposite in television shows. Hey, if she liked what I liked on the tube then I would have nothing to make fun of her about as I mentioned before.

Now, it's fun to talk about her proclivity to watching that family that has 19 children (and one more on the way), or that one dude who has like four wives. If I was all about watching these TLC shows too then I couldn't make fun of all the Duggar family names being Jessamiah and Jedidduey or something like that.

Of course, she gets jabs in at me at some of my not-so-proud moments of watching some reality shows as well.

I say "True Life" documentaries on MTV are groundbreaking television, but she seems to think it's trash. Maybe it's because every time she walks into the room she hears "bleep this" and "bleep that." I try to say the whole show isn't an Andrew Dice Clay routine, but she begs to differ.

It is kind of cute in the beginning of the relationship when you both like the same songs on the radio and you think you've found your perfect match.

It seems as the relationship goes on you less and less try to find common ground on things and you do what you want to do. So after awhile, you tend to resort to separate rooms with separate TVs - my parents are experts at that.

Every once in awhile we'll join each other for the news, for a movie we rented, or for the few shows we both like.

If you love someone, you let them be themselves. Sometimes that's with you and sometimes that's without you.

Man, how did I all of a sudden turn into Dr. Phil?

Look, I'm no expert having just reached four years of marriage as I still feel like I've got my learner's permit. I've learned a lot so far, but I know there is so much more to learn.


Reporter Andrew Potter is a Tuesday columnist for the Times-Republican. The views expressed in this column are personal views of the writer and don't necessarily reflect the views of the T-R. Contact Andrew Potter at 641-753-6611 or



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