Nobody told me heading into it that one of the biggest parts of a healthy marriage is dividing up the housework.
This can be a source of sore feelings among couples. The more I learn about this divisive topic the more I realize how big of a part of a relationship it is.
But there is a big gap between what men feel about housework and what women feel about the subject.
Men think somehow a housework genie will arrive someday and get all of the cleaning done. Women are more realistic and realize it takes time and constant upkeep.
Men will also tend to brag when they've actually done housework while women feel it's a part of life and move on.
I'm guilty of this as often I'll bring up the fact I've done something and try to be sly about it.
"You know when I was vacuuming the house the other day I noticed this...."
This is mostly to let her know that it was me that vacuumed.
We all know women tend to do way more than us, so they don't need to highlight what they did to their spouse.
Women also not only have to tell men when to do housework, but also give a timeframe which includes when she expects it to be done.
"Can you do the laundry sometime this morning?"
Guys like deadlines because we don't know if you need it done now or if it can wait until halftime of the football game.
Women also like to make lists of housework they need to do.
Men don't like lists quite as much.
It's harder to forget to do something when you have a list. You see, forgetting to do something is one of the ways men like to get out of things. That's why lists don't fly, because in many ways, we want to forget.
The less we know the better and the dumber we try to be, the less is expected of us - we hope.
Well, I hope we all learned something today. I know I still have a ways to go when it comes to knowing how to keep a house clean and stay on top of all of the work. That's why I have "the boss" at home with me.
Now, where is that bathroom cleaner?
Reporter Andrew Potter is a Tuesday columnist for the Times-Republican. The views expressed in this column are personal views of the writer and don't necessarily reflect the views of the T-R. Contact Andrew Potter at 641-753-6611 or firstname.lastname@example.org